How Not to Fight Over Money
- Created on 05 November 2013
This morning I had a sharp (read: nasty) reaction about a financial matter shortly before WonderMan left for work. Even with 11 years of progress learning to work as a team in financial matters under our belt, we are still susceptible to intense emotions when ugly surprises arise. The reaction took me back to our first money fight over joint or separate accounts. Oh they joys of newlywedom. I’ll save that story for a future post!
Thankfully, the immediate separation allowed for cooler heads to prevail. While we still have a financial issue to address this evening; claws, venom, and vitriol aside –we’re on the same team. Money fights account for a significant number of marital breakdowns. Some reports put the number of close to 80%. That’s huge! It’s also a key reason why couples should work very hard at finding a solution to any ripples in the financial framework as soon as they appear.
I want to share a few concepts that I’ve learned (sometimes kicking and screaming) to help you avoid some of the headaches inherent in learning to work with someone around money.
Halloween Help Us
- Created on 31 October 2013
We’ve entered into the holiday season. Time for fun. Time for family. Time for financial fuzziness. I’m continually amazed at the amount of money we shell out for our annual, one day celebrations – Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Since Halloween is upon us, let’s begin our conversation here.
The Debt Free Divas seek to encourage as many as will listen to free themselves from the stranglehold debt poses in our lives. As one who has walked that journey personally, this doesn’t happen overnight. It does, however, require a series of sacrifices, a decision to be diligent, and continual creativity! Enter October 31st. Again, this belt tightening is a temporary blip on the fruitful financial future you have in store. To that end, how do we celebrate Halloween without breaking the bank?
Lessons From the Government Shutdown
- Created on 10 October 2013
We’ve now entered week two of the latest political melodrama. Someone recently posted an applicable African proverb: When elephants fight, the grass suffers. Regardless of your politics, we can all agree this shutdown is no picnic for hundreds of thousands of furloughed workers. The prolonged effects will start to adversely impact even more as businesses who support the government feel the pain and so forth. The shutdown is not good for the near term. However, we can and should extract a reminder from this latest and tangible lesson as to why we must protect ourselves financially. Do you have a system of saving in place?