Thoughts on Thankfulness
- Created on 27 November 2013
I try to continually count my blessings. However, the Thanksgiving season tends to put a point on that idea. Possibly because we slow down from the hustle and bustle of life long enough to take stock of what we have. Spending more time focusing on areas of gratitude stops me from pining over what I’m missing. I’m reminded of a great quote:
"We may not be where we want to be today, but we are further along than where we were yesterday."
Can We Be Financially Free?
- Created on 13 November 2013
Disclaimer: My family is not yet financially free (according to my definition), so this entire discussion is theoretical – at best. However, if you can see it, you can be it. That’s how I roll. Let the postulation commence!
Facebook, when used for good, can be an amazing forum with a fluid exchange of ideas. It can also be a freak show on constant display if friend lists aren’t properly managed. Seek quality, not quantity. I generally enjoy the links, political rants from all sides, kiddie updates, travel pics and worthwhile announcements that filter into my newsfeed. A recent discussion caught my attention over most others because 1) I was tagged and 2) The topic was personal finances. The question posed was simple enough – what does it mean to be financially free?
How Not to Fight Over Money
- Created on 05 November 2013
This morning I had a sharp (read: nasty) reaction about a financial matter shortly before WonderMan left for work. Even with 11 years of progress learning to work as a team in financial matters under our belt, we are still susceptible to intense emotions when ugly surprises arise. The reaction took me back to our first money fight over joint or separate accounts. Oh they joys of newlywedom. I’ll save that story for a future post!
Thankfully, the immediate separation allowed for cooler heads to prevail. While we still have a financial issue to address this evening; claws, venom, and vitriol aside –we’re on the same team. Money fights account for a significant number of marital breakdowns. Some reports put the number of close to 80%. That’s huge! It’s also a key reason why couples should work very hard at finding a solution to any ripples in the financial framework as soon as they appear.
I want to share a few concepts that I’ve learned (sometimes kicking and screaming) to help you avoid some of the headaches inherent in learning to work with someone around money.